Ship order preference

Mon, 03 Feb 2025 22:15:36 GMT

Originally posted on Tumblr [2023.06.22]

I think I finally realized/accepted something about my taste in ships.

I’m not that fussy about top/bottom order (the kind of erotica I like the most doesn’t involve penetration, or even any vanilla sex), but I do tend to have preferences. I’m not a 50/50 verse/リバ shipper, but if the art/writing suits my tastes, I will eat it regardless of who tops.

However, it turns out I have very strong Dom/sub preferences if it’s a ship I’m very invested in. I’m not sure why.

It does create a bit of a conundrum because people tend to treat these as interchangeable, but they usually only tag top/bottom. And even if I prefer A/B, I still want to see B/A fanworks! But only if A is still Dom and B is still sub. However most B/A fanworks will be Dom!B and sub!A, so not to my tastes.

Now here is the surprising part. I have pretty much no ship order preference for sadist/masochist. For me it’s completely equal opportunity. I love when A hurts B, I love when B hurts A (as long as it’s still Dom!A and sub!B).

You would think that I’d run into the same issue as with Dom/sub, where people will treat them as interchangeable. But S&M works are not that common in fandom, so I don’t even see it enough to become an issue.

And when I say S&M here, I’m not counting things like light spanking or biting that are popular in vanilla sex (not that there’s anything wrong with them, I just like harder stuff).

I tried to be like the cool kids for many years and say that I’m open to any dynamics in a ship, but I wasn’t being true to myself. The truth is, in many ways, I am that dreaded fudanshi.

Disclaimer: I know that a lot of fandom likes to treat top/bottom preference as a moral issue, but rest assured that just because I don’t like something doesn’t mean I’m judging it or think it’s bad. I just have my own personal tastes.

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Reading rec: The Art of Rape by Sloane Leong

Mon, 03 Feb 2025 22:04:42 GMT

Originally posted on Tumblr [2023.06.18]

Because I am. Very stupid. Instead of working on art yesterday I started writing a very long post about sexual violence in Trigun Maximum. For various personal reasons which I will not go into, I’m primed to have a lot of thoughts about this.

(Spoilers: I don’t have unambiguously positive feelings about it, but it’s one of the things that makes the series so dear to me.)

But man. I thought I had grown a really tough skin about the subject over the years (*gestures at various personal reasons*), but after finishing the section on Legato I was so fucking drained.

Now I’m starting to reconsider posting it because idk if I’ll be able to handle a random jackass trying to start fights with me in the notes like it’s happened to my meta posts before. And I think it’s likely to happen if I express strong and unpopular opinions about something as taboo as portrayals of sexual assault in art, especially if said opinions are appreciative instead of negative/angry.

So, in case that post never sees the light of day, I want to link the essay The Art of Rape: Crafting Violation in TV and Film by Sloane Leong, which was a very important read for me about a year ago and congealed a lot of my own thoughts on sexual violence in media. (Obvious content warning for discussions of rape.)

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Ship order preference

Reading rec: The Art of Rape by Sloane Leong